What you wear is very important as first impressions last!

We usually dress to impress!

What you wear on the first date is important when forming that first impression that will either get your date running for their life or quite the opposite.
We have all experienced that getting ready for a first date can be really nerve-wracking.
So in order to make a great impression you must pay a lot of attention to the clothes that you choose to wear on your special first date.

So girls when deciding what to wear on a first date , keep these pointers in mind:

• Avoid too much provocative clothing but as we know men have a good eye for detail so don't dress too simple either. Avoid wearing  t-shirt & jeans , you have to dress to look sexy but not too revealing (ie. cleavage) as it gives the guy the wrong idea.

• Avoid wearing all black - wearing black is safe but you should include a bit of colour in your outift to bring out your personality. A bit of red is good to show you're confident!
• Don't wear killer heels - Yes stiletto's look sexy but you should bear in mind that being a first date you want to look comfortable and don't want the guy to notice if you are struggling walking in them.
• Jangly oversized jewellery - wearing clanky bangles and enormous earrings are distracting. So keep it simple!
• Don't wear heavy makeup - Guys like to see someone who is comfortable in their own skin & who has a natural look. It is important to know how much makeup to apply because if you cake it on it will look very much unnatural.

My advice to the girls is to wear what makes you feel comfortable and look great in , because if you're not comfortable with what you're wearing it will be transparent and make you feel awkward.


Now for the men..........

We like men to look unique but here is some first date fashion advice that men need to hear.

Never wear the following on a date if you want to see the girl again:

• Khakis - soo not cool , please don't wear them.
• Funny T-shirts - For example "Im with stupid" , it may be funny but NOT to be worn out in public when on a first date.
• Short shorts - If I went on a date with a guy wearing rugby shorts I would do a runner the minute I saw him. It just shows the guy doesn't really care about making an effort to try to look good.So just don't do it!
• Turtlenecks - I think men look silly in turtlenecks , it just doesn't look good . This is a definite no no for date night.

So guys and girls wear what you are comfortable in that also reveals the real you!

Do you agree / disagree ? Tell us what your dress advice is ?

Here are some dodgy things NOT to say on a first date !!!

If you would like a second date then please don't say the following to your date:

• Do you honestly like me?
• So hows the date going?
• Who were your last boyfriends and how did they treat you?
• I could totally do better than the last guy!
• Is it hot in here or is it just me ?
• Your cute but not as cute as my ex
• I used to come here all the time with my ex
• It's been tough, but I have come to accept that most people I date just won't be as smart as I am
• Do you mind getting the bill? I am broke

Would you be game to make a fool of yourself ?!?

PLACES men should NOT take a girl out on a first date!!!

1. Local Pub, Bar or Nightclub

This is a big no no because your date may be approached by other guys in a bar. This has been known to happen especially if these people are intoxicated they wouldn't care less if the girl is already with a guy!. This is very dangerous for men on the first date because it can lead to you getting into an argument with someone at the bar and you DO NOT want to hear yourself say “she’s mine, back off”. On a first she is definitely NOT “yours”. Also it makes it difficult to get to know someone due to the noise level so my advice is to save this for a future date and not for a first date.

2. Movies or Plays

This should be a given for a bad first date. The very nature of movies and plays prevents interaction with your date. I wouldn't recommend a movie or play but if you had dinner reservations arranged prior to or after the movie/play then that may be acceptable.

But again you don't want your date to get bored especially if the movie or play chosen is not her kinda thing. So please pick the movie/play carefully if you are going to go down that path for a first date!

3. Concerts

Lets just say you have managed to get some tickets to an awesome “sold out” concert that you know your date is a huge fan of (ie Rihanna). Now your thinking this is the perfect opportunity to get brownie points with your date , well, if they were not so keen on you before then they would be now, but sorry to say this but it is probably because of the tickets and not you.

With concerts you open yourself up for a range of disasters, from people hitting on your date, to your date being an overly obsessive fan and not paying any attention to you (now why would she if her favourite artist was performing live). The concert is generally going to be more memorable than yourself. So again my suggestion is to go to a concert once you have gotten to know your date a little bit better :)

4. Sporting Events

If your favourite team loses, the date will have a sour note. You are not really getting to know each other while watching two teams battle it out on the playing field. Going to a sporting event is mainly about the game and not about the date. I should not have to explain to you why a rugby match is not a good first date!!

What about jokes !?!

Yup this first post is essentially going to be about humour. Well it may get a bit more general than any specific situation per se i.e. dating. They say it takes 17 facial muscles to smile while 43 muscles to frown. It may very well be true, but the crucial point I think is where and with whom to be humourous, in other words finding the situation. Obviously a conversation requires at least two parties to "converse". In your case, one of whom will be yourself and the other may be your date, co-worker, so on. Let's stick to the subject of this blog which is dating, especially the first date. You may find the next few couple of lines useful if you're a heterosexual male though at first it may seem irrelevant, but bear with me. If you're a female, you may find some interesting pseudo-facts about the male psyche when it comes to humour so you can make better judgement about his character.

You see, generally what women find amusing might not necessarily be as funny to men, that's why sometimes an idea so lame to a man may seem funny as hell to a woman, and just for the record I'm not sexist, I'm merely an observer simply detecting a pattern. It's simple evolution 101. Human males have developed numerous techniques to impress females in order to continue their genetic line, it happens all over animal kingdom in nature and if you feel embarrassed about it well, it's time to smell the coffee and come to terms with it (oh and btw, Santa is not real either). Human males don't have the luxury of peacocks' tail unfortunately to impress/attract/seduce the opposite sex, so naturally they have to resort to other ways in impressing women, and one of those tricks is humour. Men have taken humour to the next level by making sophisticated jokes and always coming up with new ideas to make it more fun just as an ice cream is more fun than an apple despite both of them being sweet. Over the past few thousand years in the course of evolutionary development, men have adopted and perfected this technique just to make women laugh, simply put make a clown of themselves in the eyes of women (despite the fact that no guy would ever admit this lol). It makes perfect sense, as Christopher Hitchens points out in the video below (I do agree with his premises, not with his conclusion though, women can be funny).

This whole process so far has led men to sometimes lose the grip and go over the limits with their sense of humour. Normally this would be fine with other men as they too are up to that level. The problem however is when the other party in the conversation is a lady. Saying the wrong thing at the wrong time no matter how funny it may sound to you as a man can turn most women off (possibly permanently) and turn into a disaster. It's just like that episode of "How I Met Your Mother" where Barney, Marshall and Ted are laughing at a "guy joke" (the difference between peanut butter and jam) and as soon as Barney tells the joke to Lilly, she stops talking to Barney for 3 weeks. The point here is that guyz really need to be aware of the situation they're in and think before expressing their humour with women. Granted, sometimes some girls are totally fine and open to any kind of joke, but chances are on your first date she wouldn't be as open.

Something to think about ;)

Welcome

Let there be light...

• Are you struggling on your first meet and greet?
• How important are looks to you?
• Should there be a kiss on a first date?
• Is a blind-date a good idea?
• Do you feel awkward and get nervous, like crazy?
• Who should pay?
• Turn offs on a first date!
• What to wear on your special date?
• What not to say to your date?
• Location, location, location... Where NOT to GO for the first date?!?

Well, this is where all your problems come to an end. Read on...